May I propose a signaling theory of communication, as per Robin Hanson.
Many of us Autistic Spectrum types have this odd notion that human beings tend to use words to mean what the words should mean, rather than to signal emotional content. While this is generous, I don't think it's accurate, even when explaining our own behavior.
I propose that in most human interaction, that one can extract the words entirely out of the interaction with little loss. Indeed if one replaces them with mumblety-peg...so long as one maintains the emotional content of the interaction...the interaction tends to be unchanged. Video with no sound does this nicely. Quality training device.
It is only in a legalistic/academic setting that the words actually matter. And if dealing with folks like myself who think in terms of the words.
This means that my slow-ish talking to precisely identify the words I wish to use is something of a mistake (in most cases). Since the specific content is irrelevant, I should talk faster and project emotional content harder.
Fortunately, on the blog I can't do that.