Bryan Caplan
responds to the Amy Chua article. However, he doesn't address the obedience issue substantially. It's a good counterpart to
mine. In my
comments, there's a lot more discussion of obedience that I'd like to call out.
My line is that Obedience is a habit. Either you have it, or you don't. If you have it, you are inclined to do as you are told...though with some ability to resist. If you don't have it...you are disinclined to do as you are told...though with some ability to comply if necessary.
Either you have it in you to think of some folks as "right and proper" to follow directions...you have a category of "people to take orders from" or you don't. Either people are equals, and all interactions are transactional (I do X in exchange for your doing Y) or not.
Category A: Authority is all right
Category B: Authority is BAD.
Autobiographical:
I fall entirely in category B. I grew up calling my parents by their first names. I got in trouble in Kindergarten for calling the teachers by their first names. Eventually I learned that in some circumstances, people got annoyed by my calling them by first name...and stopped calling them first names to their faces when it would cause them to lose status. I am often reminded by my mother that Do X, or even Do X under threat of punishment were simply not functional. Do X because it's a good idea because of Y,Z, W, and Q might work...if it convinced me.
I never believed that the teachers before High School knew more than I did about topics I was interested in. I got in fights with my 8th grade science teacher, in particular, because I actually did know more about some areas of physics. My parents required that I go to high school, rather than skipping it for college under the idea that I needed to learn social activity. On the other hand, they flat out admitted they didn't expect me to learn anything important...and that was probably the nail in the coffin for the idea that teachers held some kind of appropriate authority. They were there for one purpose, I was there for another...and their suggestions were always transactional (in my mind): If you don't do A, B happens. College didn't fare any better in my estimation of whether the teachers (a) had authority, or (b) had substantial expertise in what it would require for ME to learn something...I th0ught (mostly correctly) that I knew more about how I learned.
I'm near 40...and have been working for about 20 years. In those years...I've had roughly 5 years when I wasn't self employed, and of those years, all 5 of those were highly left-alone. Get results X, and we'll ignore you. That's the end of the discussion. Usually even less. And when they wanted something I didn't want to give...I've offered other choices and I've offered to be fired.
The only "authority" that I submit to is armed authority, where they can kill me if I resist. And there, I'm generally seething from injustice. If some armed thug tells me what to do...I am likely to comply...because they are an armed thug...and all armed thugs telling me what to do qualify as armed thugs...regardless who they work for.
/Autobiography
Either you believe that authority is sometimes legitimate, or you don't. I don't. Not master over slave, lord over peasant, rich over poor, husband over wife, politician over citizen, god over human, or parent over child. Natural authority is crap.
Indeed, I hold to the position that acceptance of authority is a sin. The kind of thing that makes a person suspicious ethically and cognitively.
My wife suggests that it's more than a habit of mind ... that it's a personality trait instead...and holds up her personal example of having tried for 20 years to be obedient, and failing. Not to teacher, boss, husband, God, not to anyone. Simply a personality trait...unable to obey.
I believe in compliance if threatened or convinced. I NEVER believe in obedience based on the source. It is a sin to be obedient, but it is a mortal sin to advocate or enforce obedience.